Tuesday, April 29, 2008

Taking Something For Granted Too Much

So, the winner of the Malaysian Dream Girl (I shall refer it as Malaysian Daddy's Girl from now on) has been decided and it was no surprise seeing who took the title. Pathetic. Yes, I am utterly disappointed with the result which sees money having the last say over quality. Just like in any other reality shows, the result will always be decided by popularity but I from my humble opinion, Malaysians just failed everybody. To have such model which has such a lousy attitude to represent Malaysia on a bigger stage after this, I just feel really MALU.

Everyone has their own opinion, but make sure you make the right choice and vote based on emotions. Perhaps those voted for her (except her sugar daddy of course) should consume more carrots from know on. Why?

Because you don't see any rabbits wearing glasses, do you?

I have something that keep on bothering my mind that I think I need to address on. It gave me several times of thinking over this matter, whether or not I should post up this entry as it is likely that it would make myself sounding like the bad guy here. I decided to carry on writing on this and let the rest decide if I am the bad guy after all. This is going to be an entry which will sound more to a ranting post and if you are not interested to carry on reading, that will just be perfectly fine with me.
The incident happened this morning is quite common among us, including myself and I shall say it is more like a Malaysian "Tidak-Apa" attitude that we always find it difficult to get rid of. It was a trip to a tulip farm today, organised by a particular society called 雪つばき (Yuki Tsubaki), comprised of the international students and several mostly-retired college lecturers. As always, we will be given a form to confirm our attendance for each trip and it is not compulsory for us to join in every trip organised. This time it was no exception, just that there were fewer people joining it compared to last year. Nothing wrong on that because usually, it will be the newly arrived students who make-up most of the participants. As for the seniors, they have gone to the same place last year and the tight school schedule nowadays just make it hard for them to find much free time. It was otherwise for me, and a few other seniors as well. So, all of us handed-up the forms and the group which was supposed to go this time should be around seven to eight people, excluding the four lecturers who will be taking us there.
The day came, and when I got to the normal spot we used to assemble before we set off for any trips, there were only one other junior there. It was already a couple of minutes past the time we were supposed to assemble but surprisingly, the Japanese lecturers were not there yet. An uncommon sight, because we all know that Japanese are really particular when it comes to punctuality. I guess they have had enough of our infamous attitude of coming late that they decided to follow our "pattern" this time. Perhaps that was just my own assumption, but I didn't know that worse thing will come afterwards. About five minutes later, the four lecturers arrived in their cars, four in total expecting that everyone who had handed-up their forms will turn up, unless they suffer from last minute sickness that morning. However, the next thing they found out was, only four of us will be joining them.
You heard that correctly. FOUR person.
Unbelievable as it may sound, but that was the fact. I could see the surprised feeling among the lecturers in their face, but of course they didn't mention anything about that. Most of the reason given was that they were sick. That is comprehensible and you cannot blame them for falling sick because I am quite sure they didn't want to be in such condition either. However, it was otherwise for others. They claimed that they had some other commitments (personal and study related stuffs) and unable to join the rest. That is, also comprehensible. Despite so, the least they could have done was to inform either one of the lecturers the night before the trip that they could not make it and not make the lecturers coming with four cars. Sadly, they didn't. Talking about taking something for granted and for this case, it appeared to be a little bit too much.
I just feel that this is a very bad attitude towards the others. It just shows how immature they are for not being able to carry a small responsibility of informing the lecturers earlier. These lecturers are not obligated to organising trips for the international students. However, they took some time off from their daily schedule to plan and take us around, yet not gaining any special financial benefits. Furthermore, we are not required to pay a single yen on most of the trip. I am not trying to say that I have been influenced by the Japanese way of thinking, but this is some basic thing in life that require nothing more than some cow sense. I am just voicing out my opinion from a general stand. Besides, it will certainly leave a bad impression towards the rest of the international students and I believed our image has been tarnished to a certain extend, just because of some irresponsible acts coming from some quarters. More likely than not, they will assume that every single Malaysian has such attitude, which I cannot disagree totally on that because the majority of us have grown up in the "Tidak-Apa" environment since we were young. I am not an exception either. Nonetheless, it just depends on when and how we carry that attitude, at the right time and in an acceptable way. Again, you may think why am I so particular on this minor thing and putting excessive attention to what the Japanese would think of our attitude.
I choose to digress.
What stated above are entirely based on my personal opinion and I would like to know what will be your take on this. You can throw me with criticisms if you feel that I rightly deserve them, but I hope that it will be a constructive one, and not a baseless disapproval that come before they are given enough thoughts and considerations first. Thank you.


akatsukiotoko said...

To me, everybody is just the same. The problem is it had to do with the individual whether he has the responsibility and the right attitude.

It was true that some still failed to think that they were actually holding the image of their country on their hands. In Malaysia, we were able to `ponteng` but in Japan, there will be no such thing. The failure to realize the difference of the japanese culture while thinking that you are still at your homeland shows that we may be still imature.

Actually i had the same experience as yours. It was still useless for me to try to protect the other international students image despite the truth was so clear. That was why some school put a condition that if the number of participants that involve foreign students does not reach 5 or above, the trip or seminar will be cancelled.

This is a great post, Calvin. Looking forward on your blog.

cl3m` said...

there's nothing wrong with what you said, this is actually basic courtesy, especially when its someone older (and someone who isnt so close) who is organizing it.

but japanese do do these things too

Kae Vin said...

Responsibility is the issue here.

Anyway, if they know they couldn't show up in the first place, y did them even sign up for this outing?

Irresponsibility is one kind of immaturity. I guess that's reflected the personality on those students.

I'm in no position to say anything coz i m not doing my studies oversea but heck, people look at u like a mini-Malaysian-alive (I usually look at foreigners like that, if i knew where they're from)

I'm certainly on ur side calvin, coz i personally dislike people who can't talk the talk and walk the walk.

Anonymous said...

i should say u are patient enough because not using any bad word here..
I might just get mad and pergi tumbuk orang..

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calvin said...

@ akatsukiotoko:
there are several words that explain the situation here and among them are "right attitude", "responsibility" and "maturity".

most malaysians have the "tidak apa" attitude, but the main question is whether they are ready to change. it doesn't only apply to malaysian staying abroad, but to the rest of us back home as well because living at somewhere away from your motherland will not necessarily make you have a different way of thinking.

the move on cancelling a programme when there is less than five participants is not a bad idea. but as for this case of mine, their irresponsible act could badly affect their future juniors who did nothing wrong as the lecturers can just decided to discontinue such trips anymore.

however, i don't think that the "ponteng" scene doesn't exist in japan because i can see some of my classmates are doing it more often than not. they will ask their classmates to do them some favour when the attendance is taken.

from this, you will realise that there is no such thing as a perfect society in this world. despite so, we can still can improve it if we are ready to accept changes within ourselves.

calvin said...

@ clem:
like i have mentioned above, i do not say that the japanese are perfect either.

i have had my fair share of incidents where my actions are considered disrespect and rude towards the japanese, especially the older generations. one example would be to reply them with いいんです instead of 大丈夫です when they are offering something or some help to me.

when i replied them in such way, the rest of the lecturers and my seniors gave me a shocked facial expression but i didn't know where i went wrong then. after hearing to some explanations from my seniors, i make sure i will never repeat the same mistakes again since that day.

if the similar initiative is taken by the participants of the trip that day, what happened could have been avoided.

calvin said...

@ specialhuman:
they did that because they just take things lightly. i suppose they have thought, "if i don't join them, then it will be fine. the group will only have lesser participants. no problem about that."

but i have to agree that our every actions reflect us as a whole and it is more so when we are the minority in people's land. the foreigners in malaysia is just the best example. we often relate crime-related cases with the foreigners, but i am very sure that it is just one group of the foreigners that is committing such cases and there are those who really came to earn some money for their living.

i hope this post will be an awakening post to all, including myself so that we will never take things for granted at times.

calvin said...

@ ns29:
i could have gone with that method but i reckon there is no use bitching over this matter based only on my emotions, because i prefer to take it rationally. even if you choose to convey your message in a violent way, it don't think it would be any more effective than the opposite.

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